Wednesday, December 23, 2009

Coping with mild to moderate Depression

There are a number of things you can do for yourself which can help you cope with mild episodes of depression, or reduce your risk of becoming seriously depressed.

Social Support
Having someone to turn to for support is very important when coping with difficulties. Some people build up a strong network of friends and relatives whom they can talk to, but others may become isolated, particularly if they have no employment or other activity outside the home. People who are already depressed usually find it very difficult to be sociable, and this can make them feel worse. So having someone to support you in a crisis or when things are difficult can reduce your risk of becoming depressed.

Activity & Exercise
If you are physically active or take regular exercise you may benefit from changes in your brain chemicals which affect mood, and from the feeling that you are actively doing something to improve your life. Exercise and activity can also bring important social contact if you are isolated. Outdoor activity seems to be particularly important in staving off depression for older men.

A healthy diet is important in reducing the risk of depression.
In particular, drinking too much alcohol or taking drugs will make you feel worse in the long-term. Some recent research has suggested that people who are depressed may benefit from eating more oily fish, such as sardines, or from taking fish oil supplements, alongside their prescribed medication. However further research into this is needed.

Taking Control
One aspect of depression is the feeling that, whatever you do, you cannot improve your situation. An important step is to find situations or activities where you can feel that you have some control over your life instead of feeling hopeless. Setting yourself small manageable goals can give you a sense of achievement and make you feel better. Older people in particular may feel that they are no longer valued as employees or needed as parents. Helping other people – for example through voluntary work – is one good way of feeling useful and valued.

Tuesday, December 15, 2009

What causes depression?

There are many possible causes of depression. You may have an increased risk of experiencing depression because of your particular biological make-up. On the other hand, depression is also related to what is happening in your life, and the kind of support you receive from others.

There is some evidence that depression seems to run in families, but there is no single gene which causes depression.
A family history of depression may increase the risk, but this may be because of difficulties the family has in coping, and it certainly does not mean that depression is inevitable.

Changes in the brain
We know that depression is associated with changes in the activity of certain brain chemicals, known as neurotransmitters, which affect our mood and thinking. These chemicals, such as serotonin, are also affected by factors such as activity and exercise.

Childhood experiences
Past experiences which may be difficult or traumatic, such as losing a parent when very young, can affect your ability to cope with difficult situations. Children who experience abuse or lack of affection are also more at risk of experiencing depression in later life.

An episode of depression can be ‘triggered’ by stressful things that happen in our lives, particularly events involving a loss of some kind - such as unemployment, leaving home, death of a family member or friend.

Styles of thinking and coping
People who are depressed tend to think about bad experiences in ways that make them even more difficult to manage. If you have had bad experiences in the past, which you were unable to control, you may develop a ‘hopeless’ way of thinking.
Feeling ‘trapped’ in a difficult situation or experiencing a feeling of humiliation can also lead to negative thinking and depression.

Health & illness
We all tend to feel miserable when we are ill. But long-term health problems, which prevent someone from leading their usual life, may lead to depression.

Monday, December 7, 2009

Kinds of depression

The following are some specific types of depression which have been identified.

Bipolar disorder (Manic depression)
A diagnosis of bipolar disorder means that you have both ‘high’ and ‘low’ mood swings, along with changes in thoughts, emotions and physical health. The mood swings are normally more extreme than everyday ups and downs.

Post-natal Depression
About 10 to 15 per cent of women experience post-natal depression in the first year after having a baby. They may be unusually tearful, anxious or irritable, and may also find it difficult to play with their babies and respond positively to them.

Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
Some people describe feeling depressed regularly at certain times of the year. A key feature of this kind of depression is the desire to sleep more and eat carbohydrate foods. Usually this kind of depression starts in the autumn or winter, when daylight is reduced.

Next Post will be: "What causes depression?"

Wednesday, December 2, 2009

Depression key symptoms

How do you can decide whether you are responding normally to difficult times, or have become depressed?

Professionals look for the following key symptoms when deciding if you are depressed.

1- Depressed or irritable mood most of the day, nearly every day
2- Loss of interest or pleasure
3- Changes in weight or appetite
4- Sleep problems
5- Agitation
6- Tiredness and loss of energy
7- Feeling guilty or worthless
8- Difficulty in concentrating or making decisions
9- Thoughts of death or suicide

You are likely to receive a diagnosis of depression if you experience at least five of these symptoms over a two-week period. However, the most important signs are depressed mood most of the day, nearly every day, or a loss of interest or pleasure in things you previously enjoyed.
People have different patterns of depression; for example some people are severely depressed for a relatively short time while others have milder depression over a number of years.

I'll write about kinds of depression in next post, don't miss it.

Monday, November 30, 2009

Do you suffer from depression? What is depression?

The word depression is used to describe a range of moods from low spirits to a severe problem that interferes with everyday life. The experience of depression is an overwhelming feeling which can make you feel quite unable to cope, and hopeless about the future. If you are depressed your appetite may change and you may have difficulty sleeping or getting up. You may feel overwhelmed by guilt, and may even find yourself thinking about death or suicide. There is often an overlap between anxiety and depression, in that if you are depressed you may also become anxious or agitated.

How can people with depression get help?

The first step is to be honest with yourself: your sadness or unhappiness is interfering with your everyday life. While relatives and friends can often help you through 'bad patches', severe depression needs professional help. That doesn't mean you shouldn't tell people close to you what is going on if you can - it will help them to know, and their ongoing support can be very valuable.
Some employers are sympathetic to those with mental health problems, although others may worry about the effects on your work and that you may need to take time off.

Next post will be about "How do you can decide whether you are responding normally to difficult times, or have become depressed?"

Friday, November 27, 2009

24 Ways to motivate yourself

These ways listed by the leadership center at washington state university.

• Put your plans on paper. Spell out your goals and ways to reach them.
• Be specific. The advice you give yourself must be such that you can put it into practice.
• Break the task down into small pieces so that you can handle them easily.
• Establish checkpoints on your progress as well as rewards.
• Remind yourself of the benefits you expect from your tasks completion.
• Avoid temptations and circumstances that might sidetrack you.
• Recognize your limitations. Don’t set unrealistic goals.
• Take advantage of your own energy peaks!
• Use negative motivation. Remind yourself of the consequences of inaction.
• Keep a time-control budget. Don’t let one task take control over others.
• Set deadlines and hold yourself to them.
• Make an honest distinction between “I can’t” and “I don’t want to”.
• Get started now. Don’t stall.
• Improve your self-persuasion ability. Learn the difference between reasoning and
• Be optimistic. Your chances for success will increase.
• Decide how you want to start, what needs to be done first.
• Read, especially literature related to your situation.
• Use self-signaling devices – notes, signs, cues, reminders.
• Promise yourself rewards.
• Use the stimulation provided by good news to do extra work.
• Recognize conflicts and make a choice.
• Give yourself the right to make mistakes. No one is perfect.
• Exercise your sense of humor. Laughter indicates a realistic point of view.

Wednesday, November 25, 2009

Costly solutions and simple solutions

There is a big difference between the focusing on the problem and concentrate on solving the problem, There is also a costly solution and another simple solution to solve the problem.

Example 1:
While the NASA space flights starting in the processing of outer space they faced a big problem, this problem is the astronauts will not be able to write with pens because the lack of gravity, this means the ink will not fall from the pen on paper in any way, what they will do to resolve this problem?

To resolve the problem:
they do studies continued for about 10 years, and cost more than $12 million to develop a pen, it could write in the absence of gravity, write on smooth surface Even crystal, and also write in temperatures up to 300 degrees Celsius.

When Russians faced the same problem, they simply decided to use pencils as a substitute for pens.

Example 2:
One of Japan soap large manufacturers faced a big problem, the problem was the blank boxes that have not packed with soap because an error in the packaging, what they do to detect the blank boxes?

To resolve the problem:
The Japanese make a device work with X-ray to detect the soap inside
boxes and they appointment new workers to remove blank boxes that dectected by the device.

In another smaller plant when they faced the same problem, they have brought an electronic fan and control the power to suit the weight of the blank boxes and put it to front of product line in Delivery section, so the blank will fall on its own by the rush of air.

Logical consequence
"Look to the problem solving without looking to the problem itself".

Think about the simplest solution.

Tuesday, November 17, 2009

Start life changing from here

Sit in a quiet place twice a day: morning and evening and declined to speak, feel what is happening around you.

Look at the sunset. Or hear trickling water, or smell the roses go into the nature around you and feel life flowing in everything, creating an endless creative.

Start your day by saying that you will not judge on anything happening around you today.
Give people around you a smile or a flower or a prayer. Your smile lead your brother to the delight and joy.
Accept the kindness, respection and love of others and in turn give them kindness, respection and love, even if it were made in silence, those things show through your actions.

"You should know that the best way to prepare for a bright future is to be fully aware of present".

Ask yourself before you take any decision, will you achieve the results of this decision and give satisfaction for you and all around of you?.

Accept events as they are and not as you like, carry the responsibility by yourself at your own risk.

Know that every hardship carries the convenience and the opportunity to change your life to the better.

Trust in life and know that you don't need to defend your point of view about things, you don't need to convince others to accept your outlook on life.

Open your heart for each point of view without being adhered to it, becuase all roads are true for its owners, there is no way is better than the other, but all ways are true depending on the time and place and the psychological state.

haven't you seen that you sometimes laugh at yourself because you behave a certain way and now you see clearly that this way is not right for you.

Your way is the best for you in this time, this place and your current mental, if one of those three factors changed you need to search for another way, if you do not do that you will live in decline and struggle with yourself, your way that was the best for you, it will be burden and an obstacle to arriving to your goal.

Live permanently with a sense that things are not fixed and you are safe in this sense there is nothing fixed, but everything is moving and changing in every moment.

Feel that every problem has a solution and every difficulty is transform to the ease, or to opportunities for change, this mystery of life.

Monday, November 9, 2009

Acquire a distinct personality

Decided to change:
• To begin the change you must first take the decision, and then start to change the way you think, and how your reaction to others.

• If you want to succeed in your life you must be controll your behavior, and control the emotions, and restrain yourself and do not get angry, if you was able to do so, you can take control of your life, and achieve the desired success, don't forget "You make your life by your hands".

How to change:

Adjust your temper and emotions and control on your reaction and do not leave others playing with your day as they please, and do not be from the party who is pessimistic , if they met by a person who do a bad behavior, convert their day to hell .

1. Place your disadvantages that you suffered, and write how much losses you get it from it, and imagine how much suffering and pain felt by a number of times?!

2. Put the benefits that accrue when you stop this habit, imagine yourself, you have changed and reap the benefits, you see yourself in your own new live in the excitement of the great victory, Remember that you do not need anything except the decision.

3. Start now to learn skills that prepare you to overcome your problem

4. Find new ways and begin immediate in implementation.
5. If you want to have a chance, you should take the opportunity from the first problem, because the great people get opportunity and challenge in every problem, and failures people find the problem and a crisis at every opportunity.

Wisdom in the art of happiness and pleasure

- If you delighting yourself you will delighting people around you.

- Life is a short sunrise and sunset, why you don't make the sunrise for a smile and work, and sunset for a rest and calm.

- Two things in your life only two: either to always be optimistic, or pessimistic, you have the choice.

- Crying does not restore the dead to life, but good praise and prayer bring him back .

- The optimist one is the only person who lives happy in any place.

- Live within the limits of your day, neither past with its pain and joy will bring you a smile or a tear, nor the future .

- Everything in life is shattered and eliminated only the light seeks to recognize the beauty of life.

- My friend I am not responsible for the happiness of others, you only the one who will make yourself happy.

- Do not miss the great opportunity, you can be stuck to it.

- Change does not start from the inside only .. Rather it starts from the conviction and strength of will.

- Lamp does not have a meaning only if afflicted by the hardships of darkness .

The simple steps

People often underestimate the simple steps, They see that these steps are not large enough and will not achieve its purpose, They also fear from others to perceived them weakness, a lot of people are too frightened to take simple steps to make them do not do anything in the end.

If success was easy we will all be successful, successful strategies may be simple but may not always be an easy thing.

Richard Carlson say "A lot of people have asked me about the best way to write a book and my answer was: You just have to start writing without having to wait, even if the result is Only write a one paragraph this is better than nothing ".

See the child is walking in a small steps and after a few years you will not be able to catch him.
We repeat much with ourselves, I can not start saving now I do not have enough money now, While one of the wealthy say: I started my fortune with a ten dollars only.

In order to be successful you must focus on what you can do and not on what you can not do and you should just start with a simple step to begin .

In the Proverbs say "a thousand mile journey starts with a step "

list of failure excuses

If I did not have a wife and family ...
If Ireceived adequate assistance ...
If I had a money ...
If I had a good education ...
If my health was good ...
If I have enough time ...
If times were better ...
If others understand me ...
If the conditions were different around me ...
If I live my life again ...
If I given the right opportunity ...
If I have the right opportunity now ...
If I was younger ...
If I was born rich ...
If I met the right people ...
If people did not cause me stress and discomfort ...
If I could save some money ...
if my family understand me ...
If I live in a big city ...
If my talents were a well-known ...

and more ..................

The best treatment of excuses is to say that if I had the courage to see myself and know what is my flaw then i'll have the opportunity to benefit from my mistakes and learn something through the experience of others because I know that I have a flaw.
If I spent more time to analyze my weaknesses and less time for the installation of excuses to cover these weaknesses.

Sunday, November 8, 2009

How to live happy ?

In fact, there is no time to be happy better than now.

If not now, then when?

Your life always full of challenges, Therefore, it is best to decide living happily Despite all the challenges.

It was always seems that the real life is about to begin, But every time there was a plight should Exceeded, Obstacle in the way must be passed, Work to be done, Debt must be paid, time must be spent to begin life.

But finally I began to understand that these things were the Life.
This view helped me later to understand that there no path to happiness, Happiness is the way, you should enjoy every moment.

Do not wait to lose your weight a little, or to increase your weight a little, to start new job, to marry, to reach the end of work hours, or weekend, To get a new car, New furniture, spring come or summer or autumn or winter, end of the month , or vacation period, To die, or be born again ...... To be happy.

Happiness is a journey not a destination, No better time to be happy more than now, Live and enjoy the present moment.

The most important matter in this life is to help others to succeed and win, Even if this means that slowed and look back and change the direction of our race, If we sent these words to others may help us to change our hearts and the hearts of others.

Enjoy with anything with you or around you, no matter how it trivial or a little

Enjoy it.

Do not wait for the right time ....

There is not an appropriate time. .

Do what you believe.

Thursday, November 5, 2009

Success through positive thinking

Success requires that the human being optimistic, and have a positive idea, in the sense to look at the bright aspects of life, and avoid pessimism and depressing thought
  • Success requires that everyone have specific objectives.

  • Achieving success requires to do the best and do not know the despair, Insisting an essential element in the equation of success.
  • Human must used to think accurate to achieve his objectives and aspirations, many people live in the muddled thinking that appears in the wrong conclusions.
  • Success is requiring that you believe in your abilities to achieve it, and without that the success is impossible.
  • You can not achieve success alone so, you need to build a relationship with a group of people share you the same goals.

  • Success requires you to be initiative.

  • Enthusiasm is an essential element to achieve success, the man who haven't the enthusiasm can't achieve anything.

  • Who want to succeed must learn well from his failures to be more deeper.

  • Time management is an important element in achieving success.

Tuesday, November 3, 2009

Magic words for success

It is not your fault to born poor but it is yours to die poor ......

if you have not any problem in one day, know that you in the wrong way ......

three phrases to get success:
1. learn more than anyone
2. work more than anyone
3. estimate to get lower than anyone

If you win in one day you not need to say why you win, but if you lose it is better to not be there to justify it ......

Do not compare yourself with anyone in the world, if you do that, you insult yourself ......

Winning does not always mean you're the first, but it means you're better than before ......

would not say I failed 1000 times, But I discovered that there are 1000 lead to failure ......

Everyone is thinking of changing the world, but no one is thinking of changing himself ......

To believe that everyone is dangerous, that mean they are not very dangerous ......

If someone say that, he not faulting never in his life, it means that he did not try anything new ......

Sunday, November 1, 2009

Law of Attraction

Do you surprised in one day, When you think about someone and Suddenly the phone rings and you get him call you.

Do not be surprised this is a purely scientific theory Called: - Law of Attraction --
Firstly.. You must determine what you want to pull it,
It is usually be the goal that you want to get it in any way.
Do you set the goal? Good
Write it on paper in detail, Such as: "My goal is to study Masters in management and economics specialization in Business Administration at the University of X”

The work begins here:
Now your conscious mind specify the goal to your unconscious mind clearly, If you don’t specify your goal , the unconscious mind will induce you to pick up any section and possibly a university, and after you finish the study you will discovered that you do not like this area.

Place the paper in front of you.
Take a deep breath - inhale through the nose, and then exhaled breath of the mouth - repeat the process three times, with your eyes closed. Relax fully, then open your eyes and read the paper with a calm voice.Take a deep breath - inhale through the nose, and then exhaled breath of the mouth - repeat the process three times, with your eyes closed.

Keep your eyes closed and imagine: "You see yourself achieving your goal in a place you chose and the one you love around you, you hear all the cheers, applause and expressions of the blessed because you have achieved your goal.
Imagine yourself that you feel the sense of victory.

Take a deep breath - inhale through the nose, and then exhaled breath of the mouth - repeat the process three times, with your eyes closed. Open your eyes when you see the appropriate time, And look at the paper that you wrote.

Now look to the paper with positive feelings, that lead you to achieve what you want, Unlike the way you look to the paper in first time.

Smile and say I’ll achieve my goal, change your place and do anything.

In the next day, Read the paper and remember this beautiful image.
Repeat the process of reading for 21 days at least, and without interruption.
After the period is finished forget the whole issue.

Previously you was sent message to your unconscious mind and you are also strengthening it for 21 days .
Now unconscious mind will stimulate your conscious mind and the rest of your body to get what you want.
Even if you think you might feel lazy or listlessness, the unconscious will stimulate you to do what you want.

And you'll have radar picked up the subject of your goal in any place.

Think before you sleep, but ................. How?

Often, we wake up on the morning of frustration, despair and depression, suddenly, without any warning, and we do not know why, these feelings continue throughout the day, we can’t do our mission, or we do it without ambitious, but it seems that these negative feelings are related to the thinking before sleep.

thinking before sleeping is consider as the most negative means that effects on humans, which may have a significant impact on the condition in the following day, but not all kind of thinking, only negative and pessimistic thinking.

You should monitor your mind before you sleep, and care about your thinking, ideas and scenes.
You should remember the positive things, beautiful moments and any thing positive in your life and enjoy the quiet atmosphere of joy.

Now I offer two ways to think positively:

The first method depends on thinking of future goals you want to achieve, you have to write it, or to review it in your mind and your imagination, type your name at the bottom of the paper to find that the distance between you and your goals is very close, imagine that your goal has been achieved in all colors and sizes, and live for a few minutes as if achieved, then it would be great to go to sleep and the latest thinking is to succeed in achieving your goal.

The second method relies on remembering scenes, the beautiful memories and attitudes that faced you in your life. Relax in a quiet and comfortable place, and then remember the nicest memories from the past.

You will wake up with wonderful feelings!!

Problem frame and solution frame !!

Every one is facing problems in his life, but how you can get out from these problems... And benefit from them.
The way that we put ourselves in the solution frame ..!

Identify a problem happened to you....
Remember it well, remember your feelings, voices, heard words than spoken to you the and feeling that you took, the people look around you and the color of their eyes ....
If I can remember the problem...
Ask yourself this question directly...

Why me?
What I do to get this problem?
How this problem limit my abilities?
What is the fault?
What is the most difficult period I suffered from this problem?

Now how are your feelings...!
I think it's very negative feelings ...

Take a deep breath....

Go again but change the questions...

What I want now?
When I want it?
What are resources do I have?
How do I use my resources to get what I want?
When I get what I want how my life will change?
Where do I start?

What are your feelings now?

Saturday, October 31, 2009

What do you think a cup of tea to ensure your success? And method of preparation for free!

Imagine that you have a cup of tea with sugar added to it, but sugar does not moved, you will find the taste of the sweetness of sugar ? Definitely not

Has given careful consideration in the cup for a minute and taste of tea
Have you changed something? I think not

Notes that tea began cool and cool and you are not taste it yet?

So last attempt Put your hands on your head Lauder about a cup of tea and pray god to become the tea Lauder .

So all of this madness may be absurd
Will not become sweet tea, but it will be cold drink .

The life is like a cup of tea, capabilities that God has endowed you within yourself is the sugar that was not moved by yourself, you'll taste sweetness if you move it and work hard to make your life better.

You will taste the sweetness of your work, your business and your creativity

Do your best to modify your mood.

The magic leader !!

What are the unique qualities owned by the leader and distinguish him from others and make him popular for his followers, whether was political or military leader, religious or in the field of work where we are.

For example, how is the executive director develop his impact and his methods to all work in his organization is done? And how all the staff target a single goal? Is there a mystery in the style of his speaking to others or is he a shrewd clever in his actions or is he an exciting character? Perhaps these qualities together is to create a leader who I am talking .

Leader existence is very important to push followers towards the goal which he wants and looks forward to its completion. That a true understanding of the qualities required for this magic leader make him and no doubt executive character able to lead his followers.

Here, we have to say that these qualities are not born with him, but he create it himself, the most important of these attributes:

First: The method of his behavior that include signals sent by the leader to the others without speaking to them. If he look directly at their eyes or to any other place or if you stop or remained seated or if he smiled or not smiling or shook hands with his followers warmly or not, all these things help in the formation of a look his followers to him and affect their leadership.

Second: the ability to convince others, it is necessary here to say that all ideas be of no value if it is not to convince people of it was placed it to work. Leaders can simplify complex ideas and delivered it to their followers so easily to become comprehensible to the simplest members of the organization.

Third: the ability to speak effectively, the leader may have various ideas and many, but he can arrange these ideas and present it to who listen to him easily.

Fourth: the ability to listen, despite the importance of talking but good listening sends a clear message with respect to the speaker.

Fifth: the way of use the space and time, despite the neglect of this important element in most of the time but that the use of space and time as well as to guide people is a great importance to delivery the ideas and the strengthening of relations between the leader and subordinates.

Sixth: the ability to accommodate others, the ability to understand others and his identities and aspirations enabling the leader to deal easily with them and guiding them towards the goals they wish to access.
The managers who can develop their ability as the points mentioned above can, without a doubt be successful in most aspects of their lives.

why you do not achieve your goals? (Part 2)

4. They do not write their goals based on values and principles.
If I asked a lot of people about their goals, they may say I want money, or a car, And many people start trying to achieve their goals and then after a period of stand unable to complete their goals, did not you know? Because they did not put their goals based on values and principles!
For an example, if we asked people what your goal? Might say: buy a car; If we asked him why you want to buy it?
The answer: In order to lead me to the place I want, if we say to him: taxis can take you, why not take them around? The answer: I want the convenience and freedom to travel, here he want to buy the car for has two the values, the convenience and freedom.
if we know what our values and we set our goals upon which it will be like a torch to light the way for us, plus it will set the energy and alertness desires to reach our goals.

5. Because they put unrealistic goals (big and very short time, or many and short time).
This is unfortunately what many people do, they may put the long-term objectives, and want to achieve them in a short time, and they want many things and want to achieving in a short time, and this is what we can not achieve.

6. they put targets to satisfy the others parents and friends.
Here is a great disaster, many of them living the life of others and not their lives!!! Did you know that? Because they want to achieve other goals or demands of them, and may not comply with these demands with their own values and principles, then in person will live the life does not have any fun! If we assume that he has achieved achievement will make him feel happy.

7. Because they often focus on the obstacles and difficulties, rather than focusing on their goals.
Such a view is pessimistic; who sees darkness instead of light! In the view of problems rather than opportunities! In the view points of weakness rather than strengths! And so forth ... it is this habit will not be to have the strength and energy to achieve its objectives.

8. Procrastination
Some people are exercising of procrastination, even those become habit! And if he wants to lead them step of achieving the goal, it may not be the inadequacy of time, or feeling tired, or lack of completeness of the information he has and so forth ...
I shall give an example which shows us, imagine with me that the goal is small plant I want to make it grow to bear fruit and then pick the fruit, I suppose whenever I want to Irrigate it I claim that i'm busy, and the weather is hot now, and i'll Irrigate it as soon as the sun light at the night, and then start my complaints to appear on the scene the night, was forced to postpone irrigation for tomorrow, and so on Thus, I defer irrigation from time to time, what will happen? Of course, you agree with me that the plant will die, and this is what will happen to the objectives, it will die within ourselves, and we will not have the capacity to achieve them.

Friday, October 30, 2009

why you do not achieve your goals? (Part 1)

Why not achieved our goals?, And why most people do not achieve their goals in general? The answer here may lie in the following points:
  1. Because they do not know how to put the goals of their lives.
    Here is the problem that a lot of people do not bother to know how to set goals or write, let alone how to achieve them!

  2. Because they believe that others control their lives.
    Many people thought that it did not have any effect on his life! And things that get in his life were a reality by the influence of others, and the worse the view that all or most of what is He got beaten by luck; and not an inevitable outcome would have thought of it and work accordingly.

  3. Because they put goals that is not clear (money, happiness, comfort ...).
    This will Weakens our ability to achieve our objectives; gel goals is like the rays of the sun despite the energy and high temperature; but the heat dispersed, so it will not burn the paper if we put in front of the sun, the maximum the sun is doing to transform the color to yellow.
    But what happens if we maximized between the paper and the sun? Of course, you agree with me that the magnifier will burn or ignite the paper!
    What do you think about the power of focus; this in itself is what will happen if you wrote your goals specific, the focus will lead you to achive your goals very quickly.

i'll continue in the next post

Thursday, October 29, 2009

Are you creative ?

Consider these questions .......

  • Are you influenced by external influences , such as strobe lights, noise, moods of others?
  • Do you have the imagination rarely understood by others?
  • Do you feel you are going in a course different from the one that goes to others?
  • Is someone tells you that you are "very sensitive or you are" very emotional "?
  • Is someone tell you that you "thinking very," or you are "perfect"?

  • Do you feel that you have alot of concerns, or you move from one project to another?

  • Do you often feel anxious or confused?

  • Do you feel the uniqueness and isolation or lack of consent about most relationships?

  • Do you feel that you do not complete what you can accomplish both at the level of your personal or professional?

If your answers to any of the previous questions was yes, you who have the creative capabilities that do not realize by others.

I think that the vast majority of our readers will find themselves in this category, Take the first step towards self-development and help yourself out of negative thinking.

Wednesday, October 28, 2009

Put your finger in your ears

At one time there was a group of tiny frogs ..
Who were participating in the competition ..
The goal was to get to the top of a high tower ..

Group of fans gathered to see the race and encourage the competitors.

The race started ..
really, none of the spectators believed that the tiny frogs can make up ground and reach the top of the tower. The launch of the public statements such as: (Oh, it is very difficult .. they can not never reach the top) Or (Do not have a chance .. the tower is very high)

some tiny frogs began to fall, except those who were climbing rapidly to higher and higher, but the public continued to scream: (Very hard!!! ... No one can up to the top of the tower)
A larger number of tiny frogs began to tire and give up then down .. But one of them continued to climb higher and higher ..

In the end, all the frogs gave up .. Except one frog who reached the summit ..
Of course, all participants want to know how he achieve what nobody else has!!!
One of them asked the winner: What is the secret that make you win? The truth is ..

The winner was deaf to hear

a Lesson learned: Do not listen to negative people and desperate.
They Will keep you away from your dreams and wishes that favorite carry in your heart Always be careful of the power of words.

All what you hear and read will intervene in your actions.
Therefore: Always be positive. Put your finger in your ears not to hear to the person who tells you that you can not accomplish your dreams.

You can always be successful.

The best ways to deal with Negative People

1. Imagine a powerful force field around yourself that “Zaps” negative external thoughts like a bug zapper

2. For people who you have to share an office with or who are on a team with you, but who you have no managerial responsibility, be very careful. In a meeting where new ideas are being offered, the “devils advocate” types will kill innovation if they are allowed in too soon. However, they can envision what can go wrong with something, so later on they can be an asset in de-bugging an idea or process.

3. Chant inside your own mind: “Why does it work out better than I can possibly imagine.” also put it in 2nd and 3rd person: “Why does it work out better than you can possibly imagine?” and “Why Does it work out better than they can possibly imagine?”

4. Imagine yourself big and huge and powerful like the “Jolly Green Giant” way up above the little “chirps” of negative voices down below you. It also helps to imagine the negative people to be like whiny little children. You don’t hold it against kids that they can get whiny. But you also don’t tolerate it.

5. Ultimately, we always have a choice. If you are feeling stuck in a molasses like goo of negativity at work or at home you may have to leave. I know that may sound extreme but it may be necessary to protect yourself or give yourself some time to get stronger.

Tuesday, October 27, 2009

What is NLP?

The term NLP stands for Neuro Linguistic Programming, It is a powerful vehicle for personal change being used by thousands of people around the world, NLP is the practice of understanding how people organise their thinking, feeling, language and behaviour to produce the results they do.

Additional applications of NLP include sports, entertainment, relationships and health .

NLP is not only about finding new ways of attaining your goals and objectives, but also removing any blocks you may have that stop you from achieving them.

Who is it for?
NLP is for anyone who wants to explore getting better results at work or in their personal lives.